I never thought of a tombstone as an effective motivational prop until yesterday. The older I get, the faster time seems to go. As time has gone by, I have had to face the harsh reality that people do die. Yesterday I watched,”Stop Wasting Time – A Motivational Video for Success and Studying.” In the video, Coach Hite, spoke about the day we are born. To paraphrase, he said, “We have no control over the date we were born. The date of our birth is seen on the left hand side of a tomb stone. Likewise, we have no control over the day we die. That date is on the right hand side of the tomb stone. In the middle is a dash. That dash represents the time that each of us have to impact and to touch other people’s lives. That dash represents the reason why we were born.”
Stop Wasting Time
Unfortunately, not everyone fulfills their purpose in life. My heart still aches for a dear friend that died unexpectedly of heart failure in his early 50’s. He was smart, talented and had a good sense of humor. In high school he was voted the most likely to succeed. However, somewhere along the way, he gave up on pursuing the ambitions of his youth. He worked a job for years that he didn’t find fulfilling because it was a job. In the evenings he drank and watched television. It saddens me to know that he will never have one more tomorrow to do what he kept putting off. His memory has motivated me to waste as little time as possible. It has also motivated me to try to help other people find the courage to pursue the dreams and ambitions that occupy their heart.
Even though life seems REALLY long on some days, it is actually very short. Hopefully, you are someone that looks forward to getting up each morning and living a life that you are passionate about. On the other hand, are you someone that is frustrated because you are wasting so much time? Does it feel like life is passing you by? If so, this article is for you. In it, I will be sharing some ideas about how to stop wasting your life. If anyone else has suggestions that I can add, please feel free to let us know.
HOW TO STOP WASTING YOUR LIFE
Idea 1: Spend time with people that motivate you and inspire you to do better.
These type of people will help you believe in yourself. If you want to stop wasting your life, you need to surround yourself with people that have postive attitudes whenever possible. As Bob Proctor’s describe positive motivated people as having a good vibration. Negative people operating in a state of negative vibration. He goes on to say that we attract people and things that are on the same frequency as we are. That is why the proverb, “Misery loves company” is true. Both people that are miserable are on the same vibration. They can have a pity party. If truly want to stop wasting time and live your life to it’s fullest, you need to change your vibration, your way of thinking. Yes, we can change our outlook on life.
In my humble opinion, watching motivational videos is also a great way to give your motivation a boost. You may never meet the person that created the video. However, that person created the video to help motivate and inspire people just like you and me. Motivated people do not waste near as much time as unmotivated people do. Motivated people have a reason for what they are doing.
Ideas 2: Be Thankful for the Good Things That You Already Have
If you are pursuing your passions, you will be naturally inclined to NOT waste time on meaningless things. Sometimes it can be a bit of a challenge when you are trying to figure out what you are passionate about and what your purpose in life is. For the longest time, I knew why I did what I did. When my kids were little, they were my “Why.” As a single mother, everything I did was to provide the best life for them that I could. I was super motivated. Failure was not an option.
I’m proud to say, they grew up into responsible, self sufficient young men. However, I soon realized that I lost my “Why.” Over time, I became content hitting the snooze button multiple times each morning. I didn’t have anything going on that I was truly excited about. My steady job was no longer the necessity that once was. To make a long story short, I discovered it is demoraling to lose your motivation and drive.
Yet, I refused to give up hope that I would figure out the one thing that I was most passionate about. I enjoyed a lot of things but I wasn’t sure what my one thing was anymore. For a bit, my driving force was simply to NOT allow myself to become an old woman with two cats and a poodle. I won’t bore you with the details, but I started doing things on my unwritten bucket list. At the same time, I tried to always be thankful for the good things in my life. After all, if we are not thankful for what we already have, what will make us appreciate anything else?
Idea 3: Identify and Pursue Your Passions
Then one day, the seeds for the idea, that what would soon become Spirit StartUp, started to sprout. Granted, this idea, this dream, was something that I had thought about off and on for years. I suppose the timing wasn’t right. However, it is now. I’m glad that I didn’t give up and just settle with simply being comfortable. t Now, I wake up before the alarm goes off thinking about how I might be able to motivate, inspire and help people that are wanting to start small businesses. I found my “Why” for this stage of my life.
Over the years, I’ve met a lot of people that are not sure what they are passionate about. If you can identity with this, I encourage you to keep your mind open to new things. Don’t be scared to revisit old ideas that seemed unworkable for a while. Challenge yourself to stay active mentally and physically. Be thankful for what you do have. What every you do, don’t give up hope.
If you are stuggling identify things that you are passionate about, check out Oprah’s 4 Step Guide To Discovering Who You Are Meant To Be. The first exercise will help you identify the top 5 things you are passionate about. Try the free exercise now: Find Your Passion Exercise Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood, coauthors of The Passion Test: The Effortless Path to Discovering Your Life Purpose (Plume), created the exercise. I tried the exercise yesterday and it did identity the areas that I am most passionate about. When you take it, don’t over think it and make it harder than it is. Plan to spend maybe 15 minutes on it.
If the exercise from Oprah’s site didn’t help you very much, maybe Rick Warren’s book, The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For?, might help you find the answer you are seeking.
Idea 4: Work to improve HOW you use your time each day.
- Take care of yourself . Try to eat properly and to get enough rest. If you take care of yourself, you will have much more energy and will be able to be more productive during the day.
- Write down what you absolutely have to get done that each day. Then do it. If necessary, break a big task up into smaller pieces. If for some reason you are not getting the tasks done that you planned to do, ask yourself, “Why did I not get this done?” Be honest with your answer to yourself. Initially, you may have to catch up with some tasks that you have been putting off. However, if you persist with working through the various tasks, you will be able to on living the life that you are meant to live.
- Learn to avoid things that distract you. For example, if checking emails or social medial ends up consuming way more time than you expected, set a schedule of what times during the day that you will check and respond to emails. Then stick to it. Maybe you have become a news junkie. If so, allow yourself 30 minutes in the morning, 30 minutes at lunch and then 30 minutes again at night. For the remainder of the day focus on living your life do things that you want to do.
Idea 5: Learn to Appreciate the Value of Time
The following video emphasizes that we need to learn to appreciate the value of time. We can not buy time. No one can make more time. Time can’t be grown. We have to learn to value our time and to use it wisely. Bill Gates has the exact same amount of time in a day as you do. I suspect that he knows how to use his time better than I know how to use my time. When we waste time, we are wasting precious minutes of our life that we can never get back.
Idea 6: Do NOT Let Your Fears Hold You Back
Fear is normal human emotion. Everyone is afraid from time to time. Yet, successful people in life refuse to let their fears stop them. As JK Rowling, the author of the Harry Potter books, said, “If you don’t do anything for fear of failure; you have failed by default.”
I sincerely hope that these tips will give you an idea of how you can stop wasting your life. Spend time with people that motivate you and inspire you. Find your passion and purpose. Manage your time in a way that will allow you to focus on living your life to the fullest. Do not let the fear of failure stop you. After all, life is too short to be wasting time. If there is anything that I can do to help, please let me know. If I don’t know the answer, I will try to direct you to someone that does.